As you may or may not know, I turn 16 in September, exactly 7 weeks from today. This will be my last birthday in secondary school, and as I haven't even figured out where I will be spending my sixth form/college years, I've decided I want to spend my 16th with all the people I'd miss if I weren't to see them again the next year, which comes to around a dozen people.
16 may not be the legal drinking age in England, but it does feel like a milestone, and with milestones, comes alcohol.
Since I originally mentioned the idea to some of my friends, and the fact that there may be alcohol present, they've been fixated on getting hammered (feel free to insert whatever verb you connotate with getting drunk here). I've been firm in trying to rehash that it'll be a small amount of alcohol, which in turn has made these friends want to see me angered by such statements.
I've used excuses such as 'I don't want to be responsible', 'it'll be me and my parents in the wrong with yours', 'there's a lot of stuff around you could get hurt on', but I'm going to be real with you, because that's what I do in my little corner of the internet.
I don't want there to be a lot of alcohol around, because I've never been truly drunk before, and am scared to be. I've had alcohol before, sure, I quite like rose, if I'm honest with you. Alcohol, however has always been something I've put off as something I'll try 'when I'm older'.
Except I am older, and I don't know if I want to be. On top of that, I've mentioned before that I'm a control freak, and the idea of getting drunk, and thus losing control because of that, it just isn't appealing to me.
Too long; didn't read: I've never been drunk, kind of scared to be; I should really reign in my control freak tendencies; my birthday is in less than two months!!!
I'd like to now take a moment to point you in the direction of a blog run by my dear friend, Jack. I've mentioned him a couple of times before, most notably in my Valentine's 'friend appreciation' post. He's one of my greatest friends, and I'd love to see him gain some visibility, because his writing style shows so much of his personality (I can hear him talking in every blog post).
Also, he's currently taking questions for a Q&A based around ear stretching, so if you have any questions, Jack can probably give you an answer!
That's it for now, but I have a couple of ideas for the next couple of weeks, ranging from beauty to gaming theories!
Love you, Eve <3
To be honest, the only reason alcohol seems appealing is because it's considered "normal" in modern culture. I personally don't like the idea of losing control, but I do like the idea of gaining confidence from being less tense and aware. Just so you know, you don't need alcohol on your 16th and maybe your friends shouldn't be so fixated on it either? I'm still 15, but a lot of people I know are turning 16 and I can tell you right now, parties can still have a great DJ, dancing, dark lighting, good food, dressing up, nice drinks and most importantly, a photo booth or wall or something, and they'll probably be more fun. I guess the only reason I'm against alcohol is because I know that the only reason I'd drink it is to seem normal to everyone as well as myself, and I promise myself that I won't be pathetic enough to do things just to conform to society. I'm better than that. But if you have really good comprehensible reasons to drink alcohol other than that - like if you do actually like the idea of being drunk - go for it.
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It's the same for me. They're only really fixated on it because of how riled up I'd get over it, they're only joking. I know it's going to be good, because I'll be spending my birthday with both friends and family (and there's going to be a barbecue).
DeleteI like the idea of the social aspects of drinking, and that's its main appeal for me.
Thanks for your opinions M, I always love it when you contribute :)
Eve <3
I was literally just thinking about this! Quite a few of my friends are at the point now where they are almost fixated on alcohol, and it's quite unnerving for me to think about. I now spend my time listening to stories about "that time I drank way too much at a friend's house!", and thinking about how that is never something I could do. Because I am already scared of people (and am physically weak), I hate hate hate the idea of being around them and not feeling like I am in control of my surroundings. I don't like the idea of feeling vulnerable and the people around me doing things that they may not do while sober (although I know that these things would most likely cross their minds, as alcohol doesn't reinvent you as a person).
ReplyDeleteI also just don't see the appeal with getting drunk. What is there to like about not feeling like you're in control or completely yourself? A lot of the time I am scared to mention this in case people try to brush it off as an "immature attitude", but in some ways I feel like I have quite a good perspective (although I would rather not think about it as much as I do). Recently there was an incident that occurred when one of my friends got drunk in a pub with another one of my friends, and was sexually assaulted (grinding etc.) by a pissed middle-aged man, but my friend dismissed the behavior - I couldn't help thinking that I just couldn't do that. Personally, the experience would terrify me.
Thank you so much for this post, and sorry if my comment is a bit of a hand-full! I may make a video on this soon, the subject really intrigues me :) Keep being awesome!
Lucy <3
I am only 14, and though I've never tried it, I really don't plan on it. Being drunk seems very scary for me and especially as a young woman it can be dangerous as well. My dad drinks, but he doesn't do it for the feeling, he does it for the taste, and only in quite small doses. If you like a fancy drink because it tastes spectacular, then go on ahead and enjoy yourself. You don't have to be drunk or high to have fun. Being clear minded means you get to remember having fun the next morning
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